Get Busy While You Wait For Your King
An Interview with The Fabulous Oheneyere Gifty Anti
A TV Journalist
I am Oheneyere Dr. Gifty Naana Afia Dansoa Anti (Awo Dansoa) a Journalist, Women’s Rights Advocate and Activist, CEO of GDA Concepts Ltd, (producers of The Standpoint TV programme), Host of The Standpoint TV programme, President and Founder of the Girl in Need Foundation (GiNF). I come from Asempanyin in the Central Region of Ghana. I am the last of eight children. Six months ago at the age of 45, I married my king Oyekechire Nana Ansah Kwao IV, Chief of the Republic of Adumasa.
Before I got married…
I have always seen marriage as something you go into when you want to and when you know you are ready for it. Yes, there was a lot of pressure but fortunately for me, it was not from my family. My father raised me to believe in hard work, reaching out to people and making an impact. There wasn’t any pressure to get married because I was a woman. I was always taught that marriage would happen when the time was right and my dad also knew that I would only venture into it when I was ready. So the pressure from cousins, friends, social mothers and fathers never really got to me. I also had a lot to do and my father never worried about it when he was alive so the pressure to marry wasn’t a bother.
My perception about marriage now…
Marriage has actually reaffirmed my earlier position that you only get into it when you are psychologically prepared, financially independent, can depend on yourself or cater for yourself, can handle any challenge that comes your way and you know that the person you are marrying will not take you for granted. So you should be ready for marriage, especially as a woman, not because the man is ready or because other people are pressurizing you to do it. If a woman who is not ready gets married only because the man is ready and pressuring her, she will regret it since she will have to depend solely on the man. What will kill me is to find myself in a situation in which I have to totally depend on a man for everything including purchasing food, clothes, etc.
My advice for unmarried women…
My first advice is get busy doing something you love to do, follow your passion, make an impact and make sure you are leaving a legacy. And when people criticize or taunt you, just laugh. For me, I just laughed when people said such things because when I compared my life to theirs I realized that I was a blessing to most of them and to a multitude of other people.
Women also need to develop the spirit of appreciation. Appreciate yourself and appreciate what God has done for you and is doing for you. When you do that, you don’t become desperate. A desperate woman can be easily pushed into anything at all. Do not, as a woman, put yourself in a situation of desperation otherwise you are in trouble. I have been married for just six months and I don’t know what the future holds, but I have no regrets because, by the grace of God, I was able to achieve a lot and am still doing what I love to do.
Marriage is not the most important thing to have happened to me; instead having the gift to be able to do what I am doing, being able to help others, being able to make an impact in other people’s lives are the greatest gifts I believe God has given to me. And through that, my husband’s society is also benefiting. Therefore, we need to appreciate who we are and how God has created us, as women. We are the most precious gift that God has given to this world that is why he rested after creating us. As women we need to appreciate ourselves, love ourselves and see ourselves as God created us.
My belief is: fulfilling our purpose is the most important achievement in life and when we do that all other things will be added unto us.
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